“Everything becomes a little different as soon as it is spoken out loud.”
Herman Hesse
Counselling Approach
My approach to counselling centres on the development of a therapeutic relationship where you feel safe and from that experience of safety, a sense of connection can build. When we experience safety and connection, we can then play, discover and learn – the building blocks to healing.
If you sometimes find life hard to manage and relationships difficult to maintain, this can often be a result of traumatic life experiences and being trapped in a state where you feel unsafe much of the time.
This is where our therapeutic relationship in of it self provides the basis of healing:
- It is a regulating force, that develops the capacity to recognise when something is safe and to allow for connection. This expeience provides a basis for being able to relate with your self, others and life in a way that is more fluid, open, and rewarding.
“Creativity involves breaking out of established patterns in order to look at things in a different way.”
Edward de Bono
My overall approach focuses on developing awareness together - of what is happening for you, how it happens and what the associated thoughts, feelings, emotions, sensations and behaviours are.
The awareness develops understanding and nurtures the creative process, giving rise to different ways of feeling, thinking and acting that can be tried out within sessions and in life.
As this process of healing and growth unfolds, life can be experienced more fluidly with a greater sense of freedom and choice over how you experience it.
Being together in a therapeutic relationship that feels safe and connected, provides the foundation from which we can take that step into exploring what brings you to counselling. How we explore can take many forms dependent on what you seek from counselling and how you would like to work together.
Throughout our journey, I will regularly check in with you, to ensure that you feel safe, supported and your experience is positive and meaningful.
©N.J.Bentley Counselling
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